Tuesday, March 6, 2012
To Shack or Not To Shack Is The Question?
Good Morning my curvy Divas,
Today I am back with another topic of the day. We haven't had one in awhile so today I wanted to discuss cohabitation or as Southern Holy Rollers like to call it: "shacking". I have heard for years from older women that a man won't buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free. I find it ironic though that the same women that don't look down on the astronomical rate of teen pregnancy in the South (babies are a blessing in their eyes even if the girl is 12 and 1/2) think it's okay to have premarital sex as long as you aren't living together "in sin".
This is a new day. In my world,I threw tradition out of the door for realistic expectations and common sense. You NEVER know a person truly until you live with them so why should a woman wait until she is stuck with a guy forever to live with him and see what the heck she could be getting herself into? People say if you move in with him you will NEVER get married....UNTRUE. The only way that would be true is if the man never intended to marry you in the first place (see game in Webster's Urban Dictionary). I had SOOO many single people preaching to me about living in sin because I wasn't married that it sickened me. The last thing people need to do is mind other people's business when their affairs are not in order.
I said all of that to say this: DON'T let anybody tell you what you should or shouldn't do because at the end of the day you live your life for YOU. Whatever life mate that you choose..YOU will be stuck with that person after saying vows...so do whatever it takes to make sure you are marrying the authentic person and not the representative. Traditional relationships are great but every couple is different so you can't follow anyone else's rules. You have to both agree with making your own rules and if those rules work for you guys then that is all that matters.
Shacking, Living Together, Cohabitation, or whatever you want to call it was an amazing experience for me because we got all of the crap out of the way that most newlyweds struggle with like: whose supposed to take out trash, cook, who drank the last damn water and didn't refull the jug, and a host of other random things that you learn as you go.
A Man WILL buy the cow if he's truly in love and ready for commitment. NO factors will change how a man truly feels about you.
What are your thoughts on "shacking"
Until Next Time,